A Difficult Step: My Coming Out

I have friends who have already taken this difficult step. In a way I guess I should have done this a long time ago. So, in an effort to be honest with all my friends and people I respect—people I interact with every day, I’ve decided this is the time and the forum for me to publicly share the difficult truth that I’ve been hiding for years. By being honest I can stop looking over my shoulder, nervously watching for people who might recognize me when I’m out with other people like myself. I can stop worrying about people I know from my “public life” recognizing me when I’m at those places where I feel so comfortable and happy. I’m tired of having this thing that seems so natural, feel shameful.   

I know there will be some who will not accept this. There will be some who want to think of me or remember me another way. To them, I’m sorry if you felt misled. I only hope one day you can accept me for how I am. I’d also like to thank my wife, who has been supportive, and graciously by my side throughout this ordeal. Even as I pause here now with my fingers over the keys, just before I take this step and make my secret life known, I’m nervous. So without further ado, I will just come out and publicly write my confession and thereby set myself free:

For the past three years I have been dressing up in costume to go to the Renaissance Fair.

I know this is a great surprise to some of you. For some of you this is a hard thing to understand, but if it helps you cope, let me assure you, I don’t do the accent and I don’t wear tights. No, my pants are more of the baggy, commoner type that are a bit more flattering than the pantaloon kind you see those freakazoid nobility dorks wearing.

This week’s recommendation has a similar story.

Inacayal 2010, Pinot Grigio ($11.99): In the past, wine people have been embarrassed to serve Pinot Grigio. Ordering it in a restaurant meant humiliation and scorn from the sommelier. As PG has improved over the last few years, so has its acceptability. Methinks Inacayal dost display pear and cream. Pray, on the morrow, good Sir, I bid Thee fetch yon flagon. Huzzah!

5 Responses to A Difficult Step: My Coming Out

  1. MikeS says:

    I KNEW that was you Chick Barber! And you tried to pretend you didn’t recognize me when I took my kids there…that ONE time.

  2. Rick L says:

    So I suppose we should all come out. For as many years as I can remember we have attended Ren Faires and we do dress up. Not every year of course, but often enough. Sometimes we even do the funny accent. We have brought our kids to Ren Faires, have gone with friends, and even have pictures about the house with us in our costumes! I even own a rapier.

    Now for the coming out. We drink wine. We drink lots of wine. We read wine magazines, go to tastings, read and respond to wine blogs! Gasp!

    I wonder what people would say if they all knew I was a wine drinking, gamer/Ren faire attending geek in my off hours? Probably nothing once they found out I know how to use the rapier.

    Anyway – good blog. I recognize the entertainer from the Ren Faire in Carver Ma. Oh, and I wear the baggy pants too.

    • krisbarber says:

      Hi Rick, Thanks for following the blog. You’ll have to get to the MN Ren Faire sometime. It’s one of the biggest. Let me know if you’re ever there and we’ll have a flagon of wine together with our baggy pants.

  3. shawnee says:

    Well…..*sigh……okay then

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